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One Bostonian's Misadventures in Dating

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In love and baseball

Well, the baseball season has finally started and The Yankee Fan and I couldn’t be more excited. Not only do we get all the baseball in the world to watch, but it means we get to go back to work at my beloved ballpark, together! I’m really looking forward to it.

That being said, obviously he and I have a slight rift in our relationship when it comes to our baseball loyalties. We’re very light hearted about it (I mean, he works at his rival ball park!). I watch Yankee games with him on Sox off-days and we only tease each other slightly. Since we’re both bigger fans of the actual sport, we appreciate our separate loyalties.

To make this season more interesting, we’re placing wagers on every Red Sox – Yankees series there is this season. We’d going to have some stakes, but we’re (or maybe it’s just me) having a hard time deciding what the stakes should be. I’d like to do something different for every series. I mean, we’ve got the basics, like wearing the opposite jersey, and stuff, but I’m at a loss for what else to do.

Keeping it clean (since I’d like to be posting the results on my baseball blog as well), what are some ideas we could use for our bets?



Some catching up

Mr. Baseball is still in the picture, I guess. I mean, we still chat and I’m still very VERY much interested in him. It’s just tiring though. He lives 2 hours away and works even more than I do. I want to hang out with him so much, but it’s impossible to pin him down. He’s texting less now, but I attribute that to him being busy. He says he likes me and that he’s not tired of me, and I’ll take that literally for now. I feel that’s the easiest way to go about dating- I try to take men literally. Much better for my head if I don’t over think things. 

So for now, I guess I’ll keep my options open. I’ve started looking a little more on OKCupid and even on FetLife (oh yea, buddy, it’s super fun). I’m starting to feel a little lonely and wanting to feel excited about dating. It’s hard though, knowing someone so RIGHT for me is unattainable right now. I’d like to hold a torch for him, but I don’t want to miss out on something right here if he’s not going to hold it back for me.

That being said, life is crazy busy. I’m trying to land a new day job since mine is stressing me out to the max. Fenway is still as amazing as ever. And I mean that- amazing. I’m glad that I’ve had that to keep me company all summer. I haven’t really felt all that lonely because Fenway is like my own kind of boyfriend. I love that building so much and everything in it. I’m swept off my feet every night that I’m there. I love everything there and it loves me back. It’s only been recently that I’ve started to feel lonely, what with the season dying down and meeting Mr. Baseball (and not being able to keep him). I’m hoping that I’ll be able to find something to fill up the time I’ll miss when the baseball season is over. We’ll see. 


Mr. Baseball

Holy crap, you guys. I am suddenly and unexpectedly back in action. I’m also so excited about this, that I’m writing this way before I should. However, the way things are going, I’d have too much to write about by the time our date rolls around NEXT WEEK. Anyway, here it goes.


I got a bling from OKCupid that a guy with a high match percentage was looking at my profile last Thursday night around midnight. I was just getting ready for bed, but took a second to check it out. He had a lot in his profile that I didn’t take the time to read since I was so tired, but I saw that he was pretty cute and with a 95% match, I decided to bookmark him for the next day. I rated him 5 stars and received a message that he had rated me high as well. Even though I planned to do so the next day, I sent a quick message saying “Hi! We match pretty high, so you must be cool” basically. He messaged me back, said the same, and I told him that I only wanted to say hi quickly before I went to bed and that I would message him in the morning. He commented that he liked that I liked baseball and looked forward to chatting later.

The next morning, I read his profile and totally swooned. This guy is straight up hilarious and is even more obsessed with baseball than me. We had a lot of things in common and I was so glad I chose to look at him the night before. I wrote to him and we started chatting. After about an hour, we switched to texting.

We haven’t stopped chatting yet.

Mostly we chat about baseball and light hearted stuff. It hasn’t turned into anything inappropriate at all. It’s 100% clean and friendly, but still on the flirty side. We’re both really digging each other and are super pumped to meet up.

Downfall is that he lives about an hour away with a weird work schedule, so that makes things a little difficult for now. We do have our first date set for next Thursday. I got us free tickets to the Red Sox game (even though he HATES the Red Sox. Die hard Rays fan. He couldn’t be 100% perfect!), so we’re going to be going to that and grabbing milkshakes.

Despite his pure hatred of the Red Sox, he bought a Red Sox shirt to wear to the game. It’s of course a player shirt of a player that played for the Rays before the Sox, but the fact that he bought a Red Sox shirt for me kills me.

Soooo yea. Fingers crossed!


Brief Catch-Up on Life and Mini Marky Mark

Sorry I’ve been kind of out of it. I’ve been running around like crazy, launching a start up and everything. I also auditioned at Fenway over the weekend to be the next announcer (fingers crossed!) and got to hit in the batting cages with one of my favorite players, so things have been all weird here.


Things with Mini Marky Mark are okay, I think. I say that because I have seen him once since before New Years Eve. At first I was really panicky about it, thinking he was dodging me, but we were still in touch at least. He went to a different party on New Years, went on vacation for a few days, then had the flu, and then was at a conference for a few days. Then on top of that, he had to catch up on work. I was starting to feel like I should give up, but we were able to make plans and went out on Wednesday. Our original plans were to go to a movie, but we ended up going to our favorite hipster bar for some beers and then back to my place. I feel like I was kinda weird in the beginning, but he was very sweet during the whole night, as usual. I did tease him “Do I have to wait a whole month to see you again?”, and he laughed, said no, and then said that he had no travel plans until March for work so he’ll be around. So, I guess that’s good? I sent him a message today, seeing what his plans were for the weekend and am trying to see if we can make plans for it or if he wants to hang out next week. Hopefully things will now go more smoothly and we can actually progress here.

The one thing that set me off a little, and maybe this is just a guy thing, was how he reacted when I told him about feeling bad for one of my friends. I had mentioned that a friend of mine from the gym came to a party with me and that I was feeling bad for him because his girlfriend had dumped him via text on Christmas. MMM asked how long they were dating and I replied that I wasn’t really sure, but at least a few months. He shrugged it off and said that he should be fine and get over it and that someday he’ll grow up and learn. I didn’t really know what he meant by it and I didn’t want to dwell too much on it right then, so I just shrugged and changed the subject.

So yea- I was hoping by now we could have had the exclusivity chat and what not, but I feel like the month long absence ruined that for now. On the flip side, I honestly don’t think he’s seeing anyone else anyway- mostly because he just doesn’t have the time. I know where he works, and it’s an hour commute from his home each way. And with all the activities he does with his friends/coworkers, I can tell that he just doesn’t have time to fit in multiple women. Here’s hoping anyway. Maybe after a few more dates that are closer together we’ll be able to have the chat and be able to move the relationship along.

That’s all I’ve got for now.


Holiday Update

Before I head home tomorrow (with a pit stop to get my new tattoo), I thought I’d give you all a little update on how things are going over here.

My social media gig with FriendFlirt is going awesome. Looking forward to the launch in January. I’ll keep you updated (but you can also just click the link there and see for yourself and maybe SIGN UP!)

I won the Female Baseball Fan of the Year contest. I was going to wait to post until my prizes got here, but that seems to be taking forever. But thanks to all of you who voted for me!

I applied for a position at Fenway Park and made it passed the first round and now have a video interview with the Red Sox. Cross your fingers for me!

Muay Thai stuff is going really well, even if I haven’t been to the gym as often as I’d like. I was able to go on a “field trip” to New York City with my team and watch three of our people fight at Friday Night Fights. All three won and were HUGE upsets, which is great for our gym. Sorry, had to brag a little there, but my gym is one of the top Muay Thai gyms out there.

And last, but certainly not least, Mini Marky Mark. Things are going SO well with him, I don’t even know what to do about it. The only bad thing is that we’ve both been insanely busy and have only been able to see each other on Wednesday nights. Last week we went out to dinner to my favorite Italian place in my neighborhood. Last night we went to the same dive bar we went to on our all day date and then he came upstairs for a little while afterwards. He did mention how he was excited for the holidays to be over soon so that we’d be able to spend quality time together again, which was slightly adorable. I also invited him to this New Years party (which he’d be invited to anyway since it’s our mutual friend that’s hosting it). He’s been teasing me, saying he’ll think about it, but I’m pretty sure he’ll go with me. Especially since he’s already made plans for us to hang out next Friday, once I get back from home. So- yea. There’s that. I dig the slow pace that we’re going at, but am looking forward to our schedules relaxing so we can do something different other than grabbing a few drinks.


Happy holidays, readers!


Here’s some shameless self advertising. Sorry in advance.

So here’s the thing- I’m a big time baseball fan. Big time. Primarily Red Sox, but baseball in general. I could go on and on about it, describing my story to you and brag about all my special things I’ve done because of my fandom.

But that’s not what I’m here to do.

I was nominated as Female Baseball Fan of the Year. While the nomination is an honor as it is, I actually made the finals for my story. There were several minor categories, like best fan gear, best stadium photo, etc, but I actually made it to the finals for the big award.

Now what I need are votes.

The voting is open until November 25th and I’ve posted the link here for you. There are a few pages for the minor awards before you hit my story. I’m #52 on the last page (you’ll see my name, my photo, and my story- you’ll know it’s me).

If you could vote for me, it would be AWESOME. Don’t feel that you have to and there’s no way that I’d know if you did or didn’t, so no pressure at all. But if you could vote for me, I’d be super ecstatic. 🙂

Thanks in advance!!


Oh well look who decided to show back up.

So the infamous Not-Boyfriend sent me a message out of the blue yesterday. Before I dive into that mess, let’s go over the time table of the last month or so.

Saturday, May 26: Trip to the Zoo for my birthday. Me, him, my roommate, and another friend. Good times. That night we went to the bar for my birthday, the NB never showed up.

Monday, May 28: My actual birthday. Never got a happy birthday from him.

Tuesday, May 29: Got a long message apologizing for missing my birthday and how bad he felt about it. Made plans to hang out that Friday.

Friday, June 1: He came over to my place and gave me my Pet Name. Invited him to a baseball game the following Friday and he said he’d get back to me. This was the last time I have seen him.

Wednesday, June 6: Asked him via text if he was planning on going to the game with me or not on Friday. Told me he couldn’t make it and wasn’t sure if he had any free time to hang out that weekend. He said he’d let me know. He never got back to me.

Sunday, June 10: I invited him out to dinner at this Mexican place I adore, via text. Never received a reply.

Monday, June 11: He left some hipster joke on my facebook wall. I sent him a private message, asking him if he could pencil me in at all that week. Never responded, even though he had read the message (thank you facebook for giving me THAT handy feature :-/)

Wednesday, June 27: I sent him a facebook message saying “safe to assume you’re not going to that Red Sox-Yankee game with me next week?” No response.

Which brings us to yesterday, Monday, July 1. He sent me this little note:

Aw shoot, I’m sorry love, I totally forgot to tell you, I just went to Europe for 9 days! One of the frat guys was getting married in Ireland, so a few of us made a Eurotrip out of it and did Barcelona and London before the wedding. It was awesome and expensive and incredibly drunken.

The game does sound like fun but I think you should take someone a little more deserving. I haven’t been a very good friend to you lately. I’ll need to remedy that somehow.


I am beyond annoyed. Yes, I’ve moved on (thanks to the DJ and a visit from the Baseball Player ;)), but I just want to scream at him! Even if he has only seen me as a friend this entire time….this is how he treats friends? Idiot. And even if he forgot to tell me that he was going to Europe for a week, that doesn’t excuse the two weeks before that that he ignored me completely.

So, question: if I sent a message back saying “Great. Glad you had a good time. Don’t worry, I gave away your ticket three weeks ago when you first stopped responding to any of my messages.” … that too much? Not enough? Give me some help, people!