Exclusivity. How do you have that talk with a partner? I’m currently in this situation right now.
On the flip side of it…I’m in this situation with two guys. One, I’ve only gone out with twice and I like him, but he doesn’t respond to my messages very well and he says he’s been sick (which I’ll buy for now), but he doesn’t seem to make a big attempt to see me, now that he’s better. So for now, I’ll put him to the side.
However, the other guy. Oh man. He’s a former flame of mine that I thought was burned out a few months ago. We ended things amicably, but I’ve always been pining for him. Somehow, we ended up back in each other’s lives and have been seeing each other quite a bit in the past month. However, since this caught me (and him I’m sure) by surprise, I’m not sure how to proceed.
We’ve been chatting a lot more, seeing each other, as well as kissing and having sex. He’s a wonderful person and I love being around him. But since we didn’t go back into this as “hey, this is a date”, I’m a little confused. What do I do? How do I have this talk with him? I don’t want to scare him away by talking about commitment, but I’d like to know where his head is at.
Again, I’m feeling the curse of being a woman. We have a bad reputation for being crazy about things like this. I hate it. I don’t need him to commit right away. I just want to know if this is a fling or if it’s potentially something more substantial.
Thoughts? Advice? Help!