Are You Friggin' Kidding Me?

One Bostonian's Misadventures in Dating

Well no one expected THIS reaction

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So lately, I’ve been just minding my own business. I just go to my day job in the morning and then in the evening I go to Fenway. I’ve been networking and making new friends and just loving how life is right now. I log onto OKCupid, just to check messages and to see if someone interesting is looking at my profile. Everything has been peachy and smooth and I’m happy with how everything is for now.

And then a friend of mine at Fenway (not a co-worker, but he works there on some game days. We’ll call him Radio Guy) decided to ask me out to the movies. Most people are flattered when they’re asked out, right?

Nope, not me. I went ballistic. Not on Radio Guy- I played it cool, saying that my friend was moving soon and I was trying to make sure we hung out before he left, so I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to hang out. But I lost my mind when I got that message and it really threw me off. Then I vented about it to my friends and just wow- I really just don’t want to date right now and I guess I didn’t realize that till now.

First of all, I was just angry because he and I are friends. I go visit him and the girl that works with him during games because we’re friends. We talk about geeky things and goof off. Then he has to try to go and push it one step further. I’m sorry, I know you guys hate the Friend Zone, but holy crap sometimes you need to just respect it. I don’t know. I’m just….GAHHH. Now everything will probably be weird, because I’m definitely totally 100% not interested in dating him as it is (we’re friends, that’s that), but I just feel that we’re not on the same level now.

Secondly, am I really that content with being this super single right now? I guess so. I mean, I don’t have a lot of spare time. The nights that the Red Sox are on the road, I’m usually catching up on laundry, going grocery shopping, doing mad amounts of cooking, and catching up with my friends who I don’t see when the Sox are in town. I barely make it to the gym because I’m so over tired from working 7 14+ days in a row.

Sure, it would be nice to have a hook up, but I just don’t have time to get ready for a first date and put in the effort for a new relationship.

So where does that leave me? Well, with Radio Guy, I don’t know. Hopefully we’ll be able to forget that he asked and move on and just be friends. Whatever. With Baby Bender? He stood me up on Sunday, so I’m slightly annoyed- but he’s moving in 2 weeks. I also think he has a girlfriend now, back home or at school. My gut is telling me this and my gut is usually right in these situations. Either way, he’s leaving anyway so there’s no point in lingering there. We’re at least still buds. Marky Mark– I should probably text him and see if he wants to hang out this weekend. It’s been awhile and it’s always a good time when he comes over.

For myself, I’m happy with how things are. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have someone to share everything with, but that’s impossible for now. I don’t want to do the honeymoon period of the relationship- I want to skip to the real stuff, if I’m going to be doing anything right now. So for now, I’m single and that’s perfectly okay.

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Besides, I can’t be having a boyfriend when guys like Alberto Callaspo are flirting with me at work. 😉

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Author: Jane Champagne

I'm a single late 20s chick, living in Boston. I go on a lot of horrible dates, but some good ones, too.

6 thoughts on “Well no one expected THIS reaction

  1. I know how you feel….that guy that you think, “Oh, finally, someone actually just wants to be my friend!” Nope. They want sex, or a relationship, or something along those lines. Guys can’t be friends unless they find you unattractive in every way, I guess. It’s obnoxious.

    • It’s SO awful. I’m not very cocky when it comes to my looks- like I know I’m cute, but I don’t feel that men are turning their heads to do doubletakes or anything. (And I’m not un-confident either, just making a statement here.) I really thought everything was cool. Damnit.

  2. Same here. It’s not like I’m winning any beauty contests; but I don’t flirt with guys I’m not into. Is one male friend with no hidden agenda so much to ask??

  3. “First of all, I was just angry because he and I are friends. I go visit him and the girl that works with him during games because we’re friends. We talk about geeky things and goof off. Then he has to try to go and push it one step further. I’m sorry, I know you guys hate the Friend Zone, but holy crap sometimes you need to just respect it.”

    Hard to blame a guy for asking out a girl he likes. It doesn’t sound like you’ve explicitly expressed that you only want to be friends with him yet. Sorry, JC, but most guys don’t just “get” that. It sounds like you played it off appropriately. The anger is weird, though. Just be flattered, be cool, and move on, you know?

    • Yea, I know. I don’t blame him and I’m not mad at him either. I don’t know why I got so angry about it. It’s weird. I’m flattered, for sure, but I’ll be playing it cool and moving on for sure.

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